WHY DID MY DAUGHTER HATE ME? My name is Mrs. Sarah Uchemudi, a native of Agbor in Ika L.G.A. of Delta state Nigeria. I got married to Mr. David Uchemudi of the same L.G.A. and gave birth to five (5) girls and two (2) boys. Not long after the birth of the last child (a girl) my husband died. I became a single parent with seven children. But by the special grace of God I secured a job with a secondary school as a cook. And my family fed from my salary and I paid their school fees for more than 15 years, they finished their primary school and secondary school. Five (5) of them, three (3) girls and two (2) boys continued until they all finished their school. One of the boys said that he will not continue that he wants to go into trading and also my first and second daughter said that they also will not go to school any more that they want to get married. So they dropped out of school and started looking for husband. Meanwhile the other two daughters, one is almost finishing and the other one finishing primary school, and my third daughter got admission into TTC, then one of my husband's brother now then took over the payment of her school fees and from their she came with a man, telling me that the man wants to marry her. I did not protest but supported her, if that will make her happy. Then the man came with his people when my daughter was about finish her TTC. His people came and introduced themselves and they did not do the traditional marriage but left with my daughter. Next thing I heard is that my daughter has given birth to a baby boy I went and took care of her as a mother should after that, he gave birth to two more children in which I took care of her. But after the last child, a baby girl, the time came for them to put one of my grand son who was staying with her for almost 12 years, they accused the boy and sent the boy out of their house. The boy's elder brother who came for visit saw what happened came back and told me that the boy has been sent out so I went to know what happened. So I asked the boy to come to their house so that we can talk. The boy came in the evening and we discussed. After talking I was asking him why did he not come back home, he told me that he has examination to take so we decided that after his examination that he should come back home and he accepted. Did you know what happened after the boy left, the husband of my daughter came in and said to me where is the money that your son gave you. I took it as a joke, and then he repeated it. Then I asked my daughter are you not with us, did he give me any money? My daughter just said to me did I know if he gave you money when you escorted him out. I was confused that I have to remove my wrapper in the front of the man and told him; have I done evil by inviting my grandson to know what happened but since he came I have not entered any room and the man and my daughter was saying, that that is how we spoil children by encouraging them to start doing evil. All through the night I cried till daybreak. I packed my things and left without taking transport money from them. Later the boy came back home and told me that he was sleeping in a school compound and does menial work to keep living of which I found out to be true. But they told me that he rented a flat bought some bikes and left the house with N10000 and also asked me if any of my children have ever bought me a bag of rice? But did you know that even when I left my daughter's house, she didn't come to see me for over 4 months I didn't think about it because since she was carried by the man who didn't even pay her traditional price and she gave birth to her 5 children, she did not visit me up to 4 times, so on the day they decided to come they cooked their food, stored it in a cooler, came with cups and plates and spoons. They ate their food; drinks and water then brought the bag of rice of which they mocked me about, I didn't want to take it but some of my grand children who were around said I should take it and they left. Did you know that when the son of her uncle's wife that helped her in school died, she did not come, saying that when they were coming that their car spoiled and we called a family meeting. She didn't come and as it is now she doesn't want to visit me any more. She does not take me as her mother and don't care about me. Now my other children and grand children are planning to excommunicate her. Do I excommunicate my daughter? What must I do?
